One of my kids was hesitating, climbing the rope ladder in the park. She thought she couldn’t do it. I have no idea who tried to put this idea into her head.
Perhaps a relative who wanted to make her co dependent. Who is she or anyone else to put a limiting belief like the kids head? It is only shytan who will try to put a belief like this in a kid’s head. Whereas Allah made the kid perfectly capable of learning and doing things by himself or by herself. This was very painful for me to hear.
Every day we’d go to the park. I’d stand beside her and tell her to climb. And she’d say, Baba, hold the ladder for me. So I held the ladder for her. She did it by herself. The next day she said, Hold the ladder for me. And I lovingly said, You can do it without me holding the ladder. All it took was 2 to 3 tries, and she climbed the ladder all by herself.
As I stood and encouraged her with a smile and positive words, I kept an eye out. Until climbing the ladder all by herself became second nature to her, which is when she graduated from the School of Baba. No school or teacher in the world can do this for a child. Only a parent can. We ask Allah to forgive us and to allow us to be good to our children and to teach them Islam and the world Ameen.
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